Sometimes in life, you will find yourself at an incredible crossroad. As a Christian you will look at both the natural and the spiritual, you will reference people of value in your life (parents, pastor, spouse, friends) yet the choice is still not clear. At this point, you will have to directly seek God for direction. This is not easy to do because you must first be honest with yourself to acknowledge that the situation has gotten to be too much for you to manage, and then because you have no idea what the Lord will say or the time frame in which he may answer you. Lastly, you must be prepared to accept what is communicated to you. My pastor has always advised that when you wrestle with choices, it is because you understand what must be done, but do not desire to do it, therefore you keep looking for an loophole. For every action there is a reaction.. Sometimes you will have to look at your problem as if it wasn't your own.. but as if you were an outsider looking in. Often we don't have problems advising others what they should do... and commonly the problems we experience are problems others have had before us. Try to be as wise as possible in your choices... because there is always a cost associated with it. the cost could be that the situation is challenging to enter, but will later be rewarding, although we usually will want to travel the easier road that leads us to harder times down the road.