Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Trust God.. when he leads you into the the unknown.

















Its called faith.... and it is so important. I can be honest and admit it is an area of my life i have struggled with in the past, but now in my adulthood my faith has helped me travel to such high heights. I find that as I obey God.. my dreams are falling into place. I am so excited to see the new chapters opening up. If you struggle in the regard of progress in your life, I would encourage you to stop resisting God in this area, and listen to what he is trying to communicate. It can be scary what he directs you to do and you may worry about the resources needed to complete the task.... but know that if he leads you there, he will sustain you the whole way getting there and once you arrive as well. I speak from example.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Cultural Differences: Learn to be patient

Unfortunately the American culture is one of rush, rush, rush . From childhood we are anxious for everything.. and gracious for nothing. Some of us also happen to be crafty on top of impatient... it is a deadly combination when dating a foreign man (specifically African or islander). For the vast majority, life has moved a bit slower than the rapid pace of the U.S. I have been guilty of misreading certain behaviors that I only deciphered later on down the line. I do believe some of these cultural differences contributed to the strife me and my ex experienced whilst married and were also factors in our untimely divorce. Whenever I publish, I do in an effort to assist some other forward thinking woman, and never bring shame or disgrace to my former in-laws. I was not patient and neither was he, but it is so important to suspend your current way of thinking when dealing with a foreigner and examine their ways and demeanor first. To understand your man, you have to step into his world and mentality to understand how he works. It can be challenging for an American woman, but the success of your relationship depends on it.

Success is the best revenge

Its true and its is the only response to people that have done you wrong. Trade in lonely nights and anger for progressing in your own love and personal life. Realize that everything you see is not always real because people manipulate social media for example. Many smiling faces are not happy after the pic and many fancy cars and big mansions are covers for very empty and lonely lives. Sometimes the front is to convince the perpetrator as much as its meant to convince the crowd. At time it may even be necessary to withdraw from social media if its frustrating you. Ive taken a break on many occasions. But one thing is for sure... being successful and happy in your own life is the best way to respond to naysayers and people that have misused you in the past. Commit yourself to continually bettering yourself and maintaining yourself throughout life.

Monday, January 30, 2017

Powerful and Afflicted

Today many fans are still reeling from the Christmas morning death of British pop star George Michael (who was one of my personal favorites) As I read up on him, I found that he dealt with so many afflictions in private. Most notably substance abuse issues. Over the past few years it seems like a terrible trend of very wealthy and talented stars dying an untimely death from similar situations. Michael Jackson was abusing surgical anesthesia , Prince was taking sleeping pills and George is rumored to have been battling a heroine addiction. It made me to wonder why such handsome and talented men would turn to such means.. Is it that they were weak? Or is it that they had voids that money could never fill? 2 out of the three did not even have children to share their huge estates.. besides their music they left no legacy behind to carry on their name. Why were they not interested in that? My question is... why were they so afflicted and why with such large and immense talent was there such a battle with vices?My personal theory is that talented is delegated by God.. and with such incredible talent comes the spiritual battleground of how to use that talent. Some of us can attest to it on a smaller scale just in our everyday lives.

Saturday, January 21, 2017

It is your life.. therefore it is your responsibility



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An image from my recent photo shoot #Afrikansuperstar
 As we get older, I am finding more and more friends of mine that are miserable in their lives, but refusing to change things. Some even praise me, because they say I am "living" my life. I, however do not see anything extraordinary about what I am doing... I am just trying to make the most of each day. We all know that none of us know how much time we truly have to complete our life's work, and if nothing else made us aware of such a truth.. The year of 2016 should have taught you that. With so much tragedy and death, all of u should have been more motivated to be aggressive with our future plans. A wise person tries to look at their life in an aerial way, realizing that their days are numbered.

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Mold your perfect world out of imperfection

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Camps Bay Beach, Cape Town, South Africa


One thing that always mystifies me and also empowers me is how Jesus continually chose to work with flawed people all throughout the Bible. He continued to pass over Kings and diplomats to work miracles with whores, invalids, criminals and societies most undesirable people.. Such can also be an example to you and I of how we can take our lives and mold it into a serious haven. I have learned over my life that nothing will come to you perfectly packaged and ready for your use... Almost everyone and everything requires assembly, even new jobs will train you upon hiring you to ensure you understand your role and expectation. if you do manage to connect with something already prepared for you it is an anomaly and should be cherished. We live in an instant and disposable world. Sometimes I truly believe we miss so much depth in our lives because we dispose of it before we can ever enjoy it. I challenge you to take time to invest in your world around you. Sow the seeds of what you want in your life. Encourage and teach others things that they do not know. If you have been selected to be one of the chosen few all the blessing come with huge responsibility. Look at it as a privilege. If you can learn to change your mind, you can learn to change your life.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Afrikansuperstar, Where have you been?






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Me at the beach in Boston October 2016

I was shocked while I was walking through the hall of my part time job and a random person I did not know stopped me, and asked when I was planning on updating my blog. He told me he enjoyed reading my thoughts. So I guess everyone is really wondering where have I been. I realize that I have been scarce for virtually the entirety to 2016. I just want to take a moment and go over some of the things I spent last year doing. It was a huge travel year for me. I traveled to London in Feb 2016 and spent the month of November in South Africa and Ghana. I also visited Chicago a few times and Boston. As far as work I became greatly independent in March when i started driving Uber full-time (also keeping a part time call center job at Jcpenney's on the weekends only). I engaged in a few relationships.. none significant enough to mention, which all miraculously concluded right before the close of the year. I endured the sudden closing of the university I had been attending, disrupting my plans to leave the country early 2017. I dealt with a host of other problems and issues throughout the year, struggled to maintain my routine and had some really low moments. The year was challenging, but set the stage for this year; which is the year I stand to reap greatly. As my routine fluctuated, so did my desire to blog regularly. I do apologize if you looked to me for inspiration and I was not there. It is a goal of mine for the new year, to be more consistent.

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

If you change your mind you can change your life.

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Happy New Year from the Afrikan Superstar #2017



It is very easy to look around at the world around you critically, and see everyone else's flaws. It is easy to place blame, but the most challenging thing to do, Is to assess yourself and make the necessary changes. At times we wallow in misery because we have some idealized idea of happiness that we refuse to deviate from, however that idea never seems to come to pass. I too have been very guilty. I have tried in many ways to take certain shortcuts that always lead back to the same pathway that has not worked for me. 2017 will be a year of serious genuine self assessment and change. If someone is not happy in their life, they have every obligation and responsibility to enhance and improve themselves. I cant continue to experience lack in my life in certain areas, because I am deliberately rejecting good opportunities and chronically drawn to bad ones. I believe that if you change your mind.. you can change your life. Looking at things differently can bring about breakthrough in areas you have spent years being stumped on. With the recent deaths of many of the musical icons I have studied and enjoyed by close analyzation of their music, I have come to conclusion that they were unable to find true happiness in their lives because they refused to change their mindset of what happiness really was and in the end died a lonely and unfulfilled life. For Prince, family and offspring would have provided the deep sense of accomplishment, However he repeatedly lacked success in the love department (which is very common for deep and passionate people) He once said in one of his lyrics to his song Future Baby Mama "They say all my lovers look alike, could it be I've been waiting for you?" indicating a very real truth of the women he dated.. They did all resemble, and could it be that he overlooked women that would have been very loyal to him because he had a certain template of what he looked for? Prince relentlessly searched for love and marriage, but it seems from the outside looking in that the women he pursued never fully appreciated him or desired him they way he desired them. I too have been very guilty of this same complex. Pining after people that have not returned the same level of love and admiration that I have for them, and otherwise not entertaining those that would do anything for me, however I have changed my mind. I have come to the conclusion that respect is more important for me in a relationship. Sharing and pouring love and passion on the man of my choice is my own guilty pleasure, but not personally beneficial for me. You see for the leader, giving and providing to those that you love is the ultimate pleasure because in many cases.. we have everything that we need. Another musical icon that I deeply loved was George Michael, who was guilty of disobedience, which resulted in his untimely death. George Micheal's music was filled with references to God which leads me to believe that he struggled with truly submitting to God, likely due to his lifestyle choice of homosexuality. Secretly George donated money and time frequently to random people and charities... trying to avenge his restless soul and convincing himself that he was indeed a good person by doing good things.. however faith without works is dead.. Being good is not good enough if you will not align yourself with God's ultimate will for your life, and money can not buy your way out of hell. My Pastor cleverly parallels the life of a stars (influential persons) purpose to the star that lead the wise-men to Jesus. The purpose of the star is to do just that ; lead people to Jesus. if the star refuses to do so they will be a fallen star with a troubled life. In both of these instances.. you have two very beautiful men, that left no lineage to receive their sizable estates. Both died alone with untimely deaths related to substance abuse. Both men had all the money they could ever want or need, but that yet could not still fill the voids of their souls; a space that can only be filled with the hope that God provides, surely. In the lives of these men, that I truly loved from a distance, I can see bits of myself, and I can see their critical errs of judgement. I am sure that making other choices could have lead to a much different outcome for them and their families. I of course have not escalated that high, but I often feel that I will one day. I am making the best foundation to prepare for it today.