So..
I know many of you can relate to what i'm about to discuss on today.
Imagine you have a childhood friend of the opposite sex, you grew up
with this person, went to church
or school with this person, share a long standing friendship spanning a
decade or more. The nature of the friendship is not romantic just
caring.. After all from childhood to adulthood, you have experienced it
all together. Let's just call my friend, Joey (his name has NOT been changed to protect the innocent). Now imagine your friend has gone
awry, lives like a hobo because they don’t believe in the ‘corporate
system’. Sometimes this person doesn’t eat, have their cell phone
operable or even have heat or electricity in their home. It hurts to see
your friend live like this, because you know from
where they come from. You know their family and siblings. You know the
brightness of their soul, their innate potential to change the world
around them, if they were willing to be obedient to God instead of
living life on the edge. Now imagine from time to
time you check in with this person… genuinely…. because you are
concerned about their welfare, sometimes by texts or calls… and bam…..
the next day…. You wake up to a text message under your friend’s phone
number, obviously not from your friend, but from some
prowling person that they have been ‘fraternizing’ with.. to say the
least… Well this is exactly what happened to me this morning…
and to say
that I was livid is an understatement. I. Went. In…. on her.
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| "I don't want your man.. cause I got it like that!" |
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| Ask about me...... |
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Partially.. because I don’t roll like that. I don’t
like dealing with unruly romantic interests that are insecure and
crazy. Why would you snoop through a man’s phone? Unless you want to
find something that is not going to please you… However, In my case.. I
am truly a platonic friend of Joey’s. If the
woman had any common sense, she could have asked him who I am to him..
instead of attempting to contact me, using his phone…. Ugh. Secondly,
that kind of behavior says a lot about you. If you have to snoop, spy
and pry to keep abreast your man and his coming
and goings, perhaps you should just move on. If your man is dealing
with a woman that just won’t quit, then
he needs to be the one to address her, not you. That is not how a
healthy relationship operates. There must be a level of trust between
partners… you shouldn’t have to play pink panther to be with them! I
can’t even tell you how many times a side bar
chick has called me or texted me, asking about “their” man in some form
or fashion….and each time, how I had to tastefully let them have it.
But don’t think for a moment think that my buddy is off the hook… I will
tastefully let him have it too in a few weeks..
after he has moved on from this page… and is on to the next hot topic.
SMH
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