Time (30th Edition)

In younger days....

Turning 30 has been an unusual milestone for me.... Many look at is at a sign that they are getting older... that they have begun the decline, but for me, it has been an incredible awakening. No need for wild parties or drunken episodes, I chose to spend it in the exotic isles of my mother's birth country, Bermuda. My only desire was to spend such a precious time in my life, with those that know me well. I noticed such lovely details in my family and shared fulfilling times with them, I found myself thankful. I saw the comparisons between myself and people that I haven't seen in years. It was rather incredible the generosity and sheer happiness my family showed me, and it caused me to think about how some of us try to run as far as we can from our family... how we spend years or lifetimes trying to become or appeal to something that we are not....It made me understand in such a profound way my purpose.... to blend, to love, to help those around me that are missing such beautiful times shared. It caused me to not waste fleeting youth on trivial differences, that are inevitable. I have said it before, and I will say it again... that we are who we are because of the environments we come from. In order to interact with other people successfully, we must understand and appeal to those unique differences. This new decade for me is most crucial.. this is the decade in which I will become a mother, and can make or break the foundation of my future. I realized also in my trip that there are no set instructions to life. I have tried to follow the rules, believing that it would take me successfully from point A to B without hassle, only to find that it wasn't that simple. This life requires innovation, character and morals. It requires boldness, sincerity and compassion. In my ripe age of 30, I have learned that, and I am thankful. Some people ( like myself) have tried to avoid the process by subscribing to a black and white approach to life... Unfortunately, we are in the minority.. and no matter the high degree of planning, we will still find ourselves aiding others through there own processes. I have learned now.... that with relationships I can not be so rigid.... because inside each person is a beauty that the Lord wants to be cultivated, and for those of us with the tenacity to see such beauties... we are the ones charged with the responsibility in bringing out the best in those around us. It can seem tedious.. but I am certain without a doubt, that our Lord will reward us handsomely someday :-)

Me in vintage Versace

Trendy

[TRENDY]

1.of, in, or pertaining to the latest    trend or style.

2.following the latest trends or fashions; up-to-date or chic: the trendy young generation.

3.appealing to faddish taste: a trendy hotel.

Sadly, I'm coming to realize exactly how trendy our society really truly is through social media... One minute everyone is obsessed with a certain topic.... the next minute they are discussing minute by minute updates to a T.V series.. and it never ceases to amaze me, how few at the same time are discussing other things, perhaps even serious, thought provoking matters. I can't tell you how many times I have been unaware of an event only to log on to my Facebook to be inundated with updates of some awards show, sitcom, breaking news.. but most often extraneous information....Most recently it has been the verdict of the Trayvon Martin case that has totally flooded social media, and is causes me to ask the necessary question...... Since so many people have strong feelings about what happened to the boy and the outcome of the case... why didn't anyone (including all the bloody celebrities that have been photographed wearing their hood up in the likeness of Trayvon) take up donations to afford Trayvon a proper legal counsel? Why all the banter after the fact..... but most importantly, why is it so crucial? Does anyone else see the other issues we have looming in our country? The blatant disrespect of our gracious God that provides? The fact of the matter is that NONE of us are completely innocent of anything.. we have all sinned and all fallen short. Now don't misconstrue where I'm going with this.. because I do not agree that someone should just have the right to aggress against someone, and then take their life once they decide to fight back.. but what I am saying is that these occurrences happen all the time. Racially based crimes and convictions/lack of convictions are threaded deeply in the American judicial system. I find it laughable that my peers ( and I do use the term lightly) thought that something would be different in this case.  In our media we watch the media slander victims and hero's alike.... the reason for such efforts is because drama sells.... everyone thrives off discord. Flowers & smiles don't 'trend' on yahoo.com, but Kim Kardashian and Boston Massacres' do..... We live in a world that 'feels' their way through, negating taking action, hence the disappointing outcome of this young man's case.... My charge to you is to start doing something.... if you 'feel' compelled about something....... DO SOMETHING........ Perhaps if some of these people in position would have taken action, the outcome could have been different. Perhaps is someone would have taken the time they wasted tweeting, and organized a fundraiser for his family...... they could have been afforded better legal counsel. We are collectively too stagnant for our own good.... and spilling our feelings all over the place. If you want something to change or improve... you WILL have to take action.