Consider your ways.

Burning Lust, but at what cost?

For every worldly, crafty, intellectual woman married to a regular guy, I would highly recommend Tyler Perry’s new movie Temptation. Often times our media and society brings to the surface the struggles of the married man and neglects the struggles of the married woman. As a woman, most of us understand the unwritten code of “Keep your man pleased, or someone else will”. However there are more and more women finding themselves on the other side of the coin. In which they work hard to keep their husband pleased, while he neglects them sexually or emotionally, putting them in an difficult spot. 

Love or Lust? You must choose.

 Coupled with an environment where many black women are single and thirsty…  the only advice a woman continually gets is “Girl, he is a good man” and “Good men are hard to find”. Honestly until now, I have felt this issue has been silent, and wives everywhere are suffering. If you are in a similar situation as the one described, this movie will help you to consider your ways, as our Bible warns us too (Haggai 1:7 Thus saith the Lord of hosts; Consider your ways). What is stressed in the movie is what I like to call ‘The Passion vs. The Provider complex’. The Passion will offer you fantasy and nothing tangible while The Provider will demonstrate love over making you feel love. What you may not know is that after you get married, even as a woman, you will be tempted. Perhaps an old love will come back around with renewed interest, or a co-worker will notice when you paint your nails or fix your hair. Meanwhile you come home to a mate who may be temperamental, emotional, easily stressed and seemingly disinterested.

The Provider will certainly love you, but may not always show it.

 The easy solution would be finding a filler for the passionate connection you lack with your husband, however for the Christian, this presents another challenge. You have already committed to God that you will care for your mate under any circumstances, for the rest of your life. You risk repercussions from not treating your spouse right even though you feel that they are neglecting your needs. As married Christians we are charged with the responsibility to love our spouse as “Christ loved the church”.

Some pointers to dispelling this myth:

1)      Realize that no person will be perfect

2)      Count up the costs: $The cost of cheating, $being found out, $losing your mate, $unwanted pregnancy or disease, $having to explain, $divorce, $public embarrassment, $judgment from God ,$lost trust,$ your children learning the truth now or later etc….

3)      Humble yourself….. Who are you that you deserve all your needs met at all times? Perhaps you could possibly be being selfish.

4)      Communicate and work collectively with your mate to create a better environment for love and intimacy.

5)      See Temptation

Just as Eve was tempted so will we be Ladies. Let us be wise and stay fervent in prayer

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Bandwagon

Yesterday a brother in Christ came to me, heavy hearted because of the extreme empathy and aggressiveness of the homosexual movement. He lamented that some so called ‘believers’ are condoning this behavior and others are too afraid to speak out. I felt every ounce of his frustration. Day by day you see people in position of power with a huge audience, take the easy approach and jump on the ‘bandwagon’: President Obama, Beyonce, Madonna, and Al Sharpton to name just a few. I, however, will not consent. I will continue to speak out against this abomination and all the damnation that it has brought and will continue to bring to our country. I will not compare it to civil rights…. As gays have yet to be hosed down in the street, suffer access to proper education, or immediately been targeted, based on the color of their skin. Gays continue to function in society without adverse treatment due to their “orientation”. Matter of factly, they are everywhere… and while so many pity them and have empathy for them, I concede. If you indicate that you are born gay, you indicate that our God is not perfect.. that he made an error in your sex. Which true believers know cannot possibly be true and should take great offense too.The truth is that God has designed us, just the way we are supposed to be. You are squandering your purpose by determining your fate on your own, and using your body unnaturally. I do understand that this spirit is strong.. but I encourage you to overcome it with Christ. Nothing is too impossible for him, and he expects for us to prevail against the gates of Hades. I am a heterosexual married woman. I too deal with temptations daily.. to do the wrong thing. I choose otherwise. If I do choose to do something against God (which encompasses all sins, not just homosexuality) that is my choice.. I cannot expect society at large to accept it, make it legal and determine that God is in agreeance. There is no confusion about where God stands on the matter. It is clearly addressed in the Bible (which any Christian should take as foundation) There are several mentions about it in the word. Let’s start with Gen: 19: 1-13. The wicked men of Sodom attempted a homosexual rape of two messengers from God who had come to visit Lot. As a result of this and other widespread wickedness, God destroyed the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah in a storm of fire and brimstone.

The next mentions are in Leviticus:

You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination. (NKJ, Leviticus 18:22)

If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them. (NKJ, Leviticus 20:13)

Now.. If you are a New Testament only believer….. SMH. There are mentions in there as well:

What comes out of you is what defiles you. For from within, out of your hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile you. (TNIV, Mark 7:20-23)

And the nail in the coffin…..

Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (NIV, 1st Corinthians 6:9-11)

Deeper research available @ http://www.christianbiblereference.org/faq_homosexuality.htm

So as far as it is concerned… If we as a people do not re-order our steps… (and again this goes out to all sinners: Liars, Cheaters, Murderers, Homosexuals, Hypocrites etc…) We will not inherit the kingdom of heaven…..period. As Christians we have a charge to first get our lives in order.. and then show those around us the correct path to take.