The Truth about Gay Parenting from a Person Raised In the Environment

I was moved and made quite proud when Heather Berwick published an essay outlining the longterm effects of gay parenting. I applaud her for being honest and courageous enough to speak on a subject matter that I have been barking about. It is TRUE that gay parenting has effects, and we ought to be real and talk about it...... a same sex mate can not fulfill the void of the child's original parent. In the essay she talks about her first hand account being raised by two lesbians. She talks about the void of her father not being around, and although she loved her 'two moms' how it never quite measured up. Kudos Heather!

The Creation of Single-Motherdom; Daddy's Maybe, Mother's Baby

With Mother's day just passing.. I find it fitting to discuss my reasoning behind the disproportionate single motherhood that cradles the African American community. Many will not want to hear or acknowledge this truth.. but it is still relevant. I read my Facebook feed yesterday and was somewhat disappointed in many of the status's from the single mothers because I happened to know some of their stories personally. I happened to know how they understood clearly the questionable circumstances they were bringing children into, yet they proceeded. I remembered hearing the warnings from family, friends and even sometimes the other women that also had children with these guys, yet for some reason, the women still chose to believe and hope to a fault. Now fast forward to present times... and these same women complain that the father of their children wants no parts. He chooses not to invest in their child. Chooses not to support and is cold and is also callous to the mother of their child/children. Common sense would tell someone that in many many cases the past is a great indicator of future performance. Therefore, I believe that BAD JUDGEMENT is the #1 source of this epidemic. I hold the women mostly responsible for their own demise, although it takes two to make the baby. In every childbirth the woman is the one that sacrifices the most. They have everything to lose or gain by an unwanted pregnancy which requires an elevated sense of prevention. We have seen it as a reoccurring theme in our culture, and should not be so foolish to ignore the cardinal signs, this is not a game. This is our future... One can not inflict responsibility. One can not mature another person or impute the importance of parenthood... Such things are an individual's responsibility. Honestly I believe most these culprits hope falsely that the child would be the glue that bonds the relationship.

Now perhaps you feel like I'm coming way too hard on the ladies, but I am more concerned with the social impacts to our community too sit by idly as I see my peers making repetitive mistakes. I am upset that in a society where we have the most exposure and the most prevention of unwanted/unplanned pregnancies, this issue is still rampant. I understand the unforeseen factors that have fostered some single parents, but the vast majority of people are CHOOSING this walk, and they are sacrificing the best interests of their children for their selfishness and foolishness. I once crossed one of the most gorgeous women I have ever seen in my life, who shared with me she was Haitian and Indian. I proceeded to ask her if she had ever been to India, and that's when she poured out some the of the realities of her specific experience. She shared with me that neither her mother or father could handle her birth, and that she had been shuffled around foster cares her whole life. She told me of the struggle to find herself because of the lack of connection to her heritage. I wondered what her parents motives were.. if it was a one night stand or forbidden union. Both of them failed to take any responsibility, and left their baby girl to find her way on her own. One moment of conception totally shaped someone else's life. Becoming a parent should never be taken as lightly as it is in modern day society. On moment of pleasure impacts the whole world. Think intently about the quality of your child's life, childhood and future before you rashly make choices. Word.

The Gravity Of Parenting

As I reminisced over friends I grew up with and thought over some of their children now..... The gravity of parenting really weighed on my heart. I think that way too many people take shaping someone else's life and world too lightly.... They groom their children for future issues by not properly instructing them. One of my pet peeves is seeing little boys with long hair and clothing mimicking thugs (baggy clothing). Some mother's think its ok to teach their children curse words and aid their every spoiled cry.... This kind of pacifying becomes problematic for the boy once her becomes a young man....however it was introduced to him early in his fundamental stages. Then they go on to be dysfunctional men that plague responsible women..... in many cases this behavior started from the ground up. I believe it natural to think that your home environment is a good one, and in some cases people have a hard time admitting to themselves and others that their home and parents were less than sterling examples. All the more responsibility is put on the parents to make sure they are providing the best possible environment for their kids... it goes beyond buying your kids the latest material things and clothing..... it requires catering to their spiritual and emotional development. As an adult, I came face to face with the high occurrence of dysfunctional, non independent young people, that are struggling to find themselves... therefore gravitating to unhealthy habits and lifestyles.. all because they feel like they are missing something or they want to medicate their pain. Having a strong self identity will prevent you from just doing anything to yourself or your body because you will understand that you have a high wealth. So in closing.. I encourage all the parents out there that may be struggling or frustrated to not take your role in someone else's life without high regard..... you can make or break their future........

Where exactly is the crisis????

So I was reading an article this morning about the "gender identity" crisis noted in the female children of Angelina Jolie and Beyonce, as their parents dress them or allow them to dress like little boys, I wondered, exactly where the crisis was... It is clear that a parent has the ability to shape and mold their child's world, by showing them and conveying to them gender specific information. If you are a girl or a boy.. it is clear of your sex. Hence, the parents responsibility to make that clear. There should be no crisis.... In the case of Blue Ivy Carter, Jay Z & Beyonce's 1 yr old daughter, her parents are solely selecting her clothing without any input from the child. It begs the question of why they would choose to dress her in such a way? In the Case of Shiloh Jolie-Pitt, daughter of Brad Pritt and Angelina Jolie, they claim their daughter is selecting her boyish clothing on her own, and that they just allow her to do so.
Real Talk:
As a parent, you are your's childs introduction into the world as we know it. As children I think we all have had some left brianed idea once or twice, and it was the responsibility of our parents and other adults that cared for us, to not just let us go in the wrong directions. Both sets of parents are cultivating a problem for their daughters..... smh... good luck with that....